New Year, Helpless Me

I love me a good resolution.

I can also count on one hand the number of resolutions that I’ve actually seen through to completion.

This year, on the blog we will be working through change together. Each month will focus on a different step to change and keeping that change. So, without further ado, let’s jump on in.


/stʌk/: unable to move from a particular position or place, or unable to change a situation.

Aka the worst feeling ever. When it comes to our bad habits, lifestyles or addictions it feels like claustrophobia in our own brain.

Paul sums it up pretty nicely:

For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. Romans 7:18-19

The desire is there, the knowledge is there, so why can’t we do it?

Let’s break this down a little bit.

Paul isn’t saying that there is no point in trying. He’s saying that just like us, he wants to do the right thing, and knows what is the right thing. He’s saying that when it comes to our own strength, or the law, there is no power.

Often times we become “stuck” because we have the mindset of here are the rules = therefore just keep them. 

And that, friends, is our problem.

Control freak Humans

We are all control freaks.

Humans are brought into this world with a complete lack of control, but an intense need for control.

We trick ourselves into thinking we have control, we crave control, we react badly when we lose control.

So much of our lives can be spent wasting our energy on futile attempts for glimpses of control. This leaks into our relationships, our personal inner life and our relationship with God.

There is something key that we have to understand if we are going to achieve any progress this year.

We are not in control.
We cannot manage our lives on our own.

Simply put, we literally can’t.

Whether you have a habit to break or gain, a relationship to salvage, growth to be had in your faith or even an addiction to recover from, realizing and accepting your lack of control is the first step towards change.

One day at a time, week at a time, month at a time, step at a time.

Humans are made by God and for God. It therefore follows that the for God part cannot be achieved without God. Ya feel?

When our steps towards obedience to God are based in our own strength we are doomed to struggle and fail.

This does not mean we can just sit back and let it all happen. What I’m trying to show is that when we come to this place of utter helplessness, this place where we truly realize we cannot mature, move on or break habits on our own strength, we actually place ourselves beautifully before God in surrender.

And it is in this surrender that we find freedom.

Over the next few weeks, I challenge you to take inventory of your life. Are there habits you have that are not as under control as you think? Do you have the false mindset that you can work for your salvation, work for acceptance in Jesus? Are you trying to live a life of obedience to God without God’s help?

Join me in getting un-stuck.

This is where the miracles happen.

This is where freedom is abundant.

All the love!

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